Attitude is the 'Mental Picture', feeling, point of view towards something, somebody, i.e. the attitude object.
Our belief system determines our attitude. The way we are brought up, our value system develops our attitude towards the attitude object. Thus our parents, teachers, peers, and the environment play a pivotal role in shaping our attitude. Experiences that we gather during the early days of our life also impact our attitude.
Our Attitude towards life affects every aspect of life, be it a relationship, career, job, profession, health, and even our body language!
Now here comes the million-dollar question - Can our attitude be changed? Can we change our attitude for Good?
The answer is YES! So we can change our attitude from negative to positive.
Obviously, here I am not talking about changing positive attitudes to negative, which anyway is not desirable.
So, How do you bring in the required change?
You will have to Recondition your self i.e your belief system through positive input in a very disciplined and systematic manner.
Definitely, it won't be a cake-walk, neither it would change overnight. That's a reason systematic positive reinforcement is required. You will have to clean your window of self-belief and self-image regularly.
So here are some practical ways for you to try out -
- Analyze yourself with 100% honesty -Take a note of the negative traits which require change. To bring in the change in your attitude, you need to change your old belief system.
Don't rush in to change all at one go. That would never help you, but rather increase your frustration and chances of failure.
- Bring down your interaction to a bare minimum if not zero with all those negative stuff around you. Negative People, News, books, articles, TV programs, negative series on apps has to be avoided. Most Importantly Negative People However close he or she might be (even if the closest relation), if it is only negative that they radiate, stay away from them. Politely maintain a safe distance.
- Be surrounded by Positivity - Let yourself be surrounded by all that is positive - Positive people, positive, quotes, Stick positive Quotes in your room so that you can see them always. Watch positive movies, motivational videos, Read self-changing, self-development books, there are plenty of them.
- Reduce your Mental luggage - 'Let go' of your old baggage, old failures, old memories that hurt. Laugh them off. No one knows you better than your self. So brush off all criticism. Take lessons from your failures and work on them. Don't be obsessed about something or somebody. Don't hold onto something for too long, if you think it's not working for you.
- Don't get into an argument - Please don't get into an argument or debate, It's just a waste of time. If anyone says anything about you, which you don't like or you think is wrong, don't get into a verbal confrontation. Start forgiving people and forgetting bitter incidents of the past. Rather work on self development.
- Take life as a challenge - Start every day as a new gift. I may have been a loser yesterday, but I know, I firmly believe that today I would go one step forward towards success. Face life on a day to day basis.
- Be honestly grateful for what you already have - We all have something in our lives to be grateful for. Our home, our family, our loved ones, the food that we eat, and above all be thankful for our life. Make your own list of "blessings" and offer your gratitude to them.
- Start something new in Life - A New hobby, Learn some new skills, Learn swimming, cycling, start going to new places, New friends! Pat your self even for the smallest of achievement. Please remember that Success improves our self-esteem. It creates a positive self-image and provides us with an impetus
- Choose someone as your Idol - Follow his actions and reactions. Read about him, See how he talks, observe his body language. It would really be helpful. Try modeling him/
So, Let's accept the challenge and get going.
The Biggest attitude is to keep your 'Hope' alive in all adversities.
If you can do it, then it means that you have won the game.